Breaking Barrs: Lost in Grief

May 8th began with another unexpected crisis. Mimi had to be rushed back to the ER. She had developed MRSA, and the doctors admitted her immediately for emergency surgery scheduled for the next morning.

A Day of Despair

Before she could even make it to the OR at 8 a.m., another emergency call came in—this time from her house. Stacey had been helping care for Tina after her first surgery and was staying at the house with her four children and two of Tina’s grandsons. That morning, Stacey’s youngest son, Wreese—just four months old—suddenly wasn’t breathing.

911 was called. CPR was performed until EMTs arrived. But nothing prepares you for the weight of the unknown when a baby’s life hangs in the balance.

A Family in Distress

At the same time, I woke up earlier than usual. To my surprise, my grandmother—who had been rapidly declining since we brought her home two days earlier—was awake. She hadn’t been eating, and only a few sips of water were keeping her going. I stepped to her bedside and asked if she was okay.

What came out wasn’t her voice. The words were garbled—unrecognizable. It was terrifying. I woke my mother, fearing this could be the final surge of energy they say sometimes comes before the end.

A Long Day Ahead

With the sun still low, I ran to the store to grab coffee for both of us. Something deep in my spirit told me it was going to be a long day. I had no idea how long it would actually be.

Wreese passed on Friday. My grandmother passed on Saturday.

Coping with Loss

Dealing with grief can overwhelm anyone. It's important to take the time to grieve and remember loved ones. Memories may bring comfort, but the pain can be intense. Finding ways to cope is essential for healing.

Support Systems

Surrounding yourself with loved ones can help. Friends and family often provide immense support during difficult times. Whether through a kind word or a shoulder to cry on, their presence can lighten the burden.

Many people also find solace in support groups. These groups offer understanding and shared experiences, making it easier to navigate through grief.

Remembering the Loved Ones

Creating a memory book can be a wonderful way to honor those we've lost. Collecting photos, stories, and cherished memories helps keep their spirit alive. Lighting a candle or visiting their resting place can also be meaningful tributes.

Seeking Professional Help

Sometimes, grief can feel unbearable. Seeking help from a counselor or therapist may be necessary. They can provide coping strategies and a safe space to express emotions. It’s essential to prioritize mental health during these stressful times.

Finding Strength

Navigating through loss is tough. Each person’s journey is unique. It’s crucial to honor your own feelings and give yourself grace as you heal. Lean on your support system and don’t hesitate to seek help when needed.

Remember, healing takes time. Each small step forward is a victory. Ultimately, love surrounds us even in our saddest moments. For many, finding this love is a pathway to recovery.

In these times, we can also remember the joy our loved ones brought into our lives. We can hold on to those moments and carry them forward.

Every step we take, we carry our loved ones with us, guiding our paths and giving us strength.